You won’t always recognize these people for what they say or do, but by the way they make you feel.

.

Some people seem to be full of creativity

and enthusiasm…

.

...

.

but if you look around them,

you see people driven into uncertainty,

low self-esteem and sadness.

You do not feel free around them,

you want to appear better to be liked,

to be invited again,

to be part of their successful group…

.

.

you feel that could end at any moment

if you are not interesting enough

or you do not follow their ‘advices’:

“I would prefer if this would happen”…

An innocent polite indirect request

you know you ‘better‘ fulfill!

Some of them are almost impossible to detect…

they are incredibly smart but,

a deeper look on your part, will undisclose

a hidden personal motif behind anything they do;

you were invited because they needed more people there,

or because in that moment they were alone

and you became their “entertainment” tool.

Most of these people appear in control of their life

but in truth they are in fear,

insecure to the degree

that they feel there is no other solution to survive

but to cowardly dominate…

...

You won’t always recognize these people

for what they say or do,

but by the way they make you feel.

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LIST 11

Invalidation

(from the book “Self Analysis” by L. Ron Hubbard)

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Aberrated individuals use two distinct

and very aberrated methods of controlling others.

The first consists of forcing the other person

to do exactly what is desired with the mechanism of recrimination

and denial of friendship or support

unless instant compliance takes place.

In other words, “You do exact what I say or I am no ally of yours”.

This is outright domination.

Additionally, it seeks by anger and outright criticism, accusations,

and other mechanisms to pound another individual

into submission by making him less.

The second method might be called

domination by nullification.

This is covert and quite often

the person upon whom it is exerted

remains unsuspecting beyond the fact

that he knows he is very unhappy.

This is the coward’s method of domination.

The person using it feels that he is less than the individual

upon whom he is using it and has no the honesty

or fortitude to admit the fact to himself.

He then begins, much as termites gnaw away a foundation,

as in California, to pull the other individual “down to size”,

using small carping criticisms.

The one who is seeking to dominate strike heavily at the point of pride

and capability of his target and yell if at any moment

the target challenges the nullifier,

the person using the mechanism claims he is doing so

solely out of assistance and friendship,

or disavows completely that it has been done.

Of the two methods, the latter is far more damaging.

A person using this method seeks to reduce another individual

down to a point where he can be completely controlled

and will not stop until he has reduced the target

into a confused apathy.

The lowest common denominator of nullification

could be called “invalidation”.

The nullifier seeks to invalidate not only the person

but the skills and knowledge of his target.

The possessions of the target are said to be not quite

as important as they might be.

The experiences of the person being nullified are minimized.

The target’s, looks, strength, physical capabilities

and potentialities are also invalidated.

All this may be done so covertly that it appears

to be “in the best interest of” the target.

The nullifier seeks to“improve” the person being invalidated.

The first question of this list should be, of course,

how many people have you known

who have sought consistently

under the mask of seeking to aid you

to tear you apart as a person,

and reduce your future,

your hopes, your goals,

and the very energy of your life?

______________

 

WE HAVE THE KNOWLEDGE

TO AN HAPPY LIFE!!

...

Let’s Start!

 

____________________________

We are here to help!!

If you are still in the church as staff or as public

and you need help to get out,

if you just left and you need help,

please call or write to:

ITALIANO/ENGLISH:

Silvia  Kusada  e-mail: SKusada2010@gmail.com

ESPANOL/ENGLISH:

Aida Thomas: e-mail: dianaclass8@yahoo.com

LOS ANGELES ex-SO STAFF ONLY:

contact Aida Thomas in private.

.

Silvia Kusada

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Class VI (SHSBC), Class IV C/S and OT 8.

skusada2010@gmail.com

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https://silviakusada.wordpress.com/my-story-in-short/

The happy world of the INDEPENDENT as free people!!

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1 Comment

  1. Absolutely great article. Perfact!!!I have been and i am to this day connected to such a being. In the way i am so ever greafull for such a dangerous, destructive connection, because after every meeting over the years I have audited it’s affect out. This connection have given me many wins till there was nothing to solo out, no more affact on my side. Such a being is in a very poor condition, feels so small but acts so compatent and knowing, They are users, manipulators, my way or else!!! Thanks Silvia! what a wonderful fun is to be Solo Auditor!


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